Our Big Day!

*Accommodation and locations mentioned in this post are in no way affiliated with me*

I know I’ve mentioned it now in a few of my posts… and for the few people who actually read (if any at this point), the big day has finally come and gone! Whilst the event itself was honestly an amazing experience, the lead up and organisation was, how do I put this… chaotic!

Let me just say, our wedding was overseas in Fiji… which made it more difficult than expected to organise. However also much cheaper once all the details were actually hashed out properly. We had our wedding at Fiji Hideaway Resort and Spa, which was a beautiful location. After an insanely grueling 5 or so hour flight with K (his first plane trip ever by the way), we got to our accommodation, eventually checked in and then pretty much slept the rest of the day, waking only for meals *laughs to self about parental exhaustion* . The first week of our trip was basically spent finalising wedding details. To save money we tried to do as much as possible ourselves, we got fresh flowers sourced locally for my bridesmaids, I did mine and the bridesmaids hair, eBay was also a great source prior to the trip for dresses, gifts and jewellery. One of my biggest concerns was my ‘diet’ in regards to the wedding. I wasn’t sure how being vegan would go over there, but it turned out to be absolutely fine, half the meals were vegetarian/ vegan friendly and the cake was completely vegan, so I was able to eat my own wedding cake! *happy dance*

Once the party was over, we went back to the room to put K to bed then went to have a shower before going to bed. We had a super early start, having to drive 2 hours back to Nadi to catch a boat (which we missed by the way) to get to the honeymoon. Due to missing the boat we managed to get a seaplane out instead which was great.

THE HONEYMOON….

We got to Mantaray Island by around lunchtime, were checked in and had to literally hike to get to the lunch. Mantaray is somewhat of a luxury hostel. Meals are paid for on arrival and you just turn up at meal times and order from the menu board. Our first couple of days were spent just settling in on the beach and sussing out the dive shop. I decided that I was going to get Open Water certified while I was there. It did mean I missed out on breakfast for a few days… but the experience was so worth it! I even got to see a shark and some turtles in my last 2 dives. While there, D and I got to snorkel with some mantarays… well they don’t call it Mantaray Island for nothing!

The whole experience was phenomenal and incredibly awe-worthy. I will upload some of the snaps into an album here, and try to add some footage from the manta swim on the Mum of  0ne Instagram page.

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Thanks for sticking with me to the end of this post.. here’s the album!

 

 

 

 

 

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Waste-Free Moon Cycle

Hello beautiful people! So, I recently made the decision to live a more zero waste lifestyle. Since leaving my childhood home, I always did what I thought would help when it came to recycling and being eco-friendly. I reused plastic grocery bags, I recycled old milk cartons etc… but after a little research, I realised this is not nearly helpful to the degree it needs to be. In saying that, this post is about the ‘feminine products’ so I will focus on that in this post and do a further ‘zero waste’ post at a later date.

So, its pretty much a fact of life for females from puberty to menopause… periods. Though it goes by many names; time of the month, sacred bleeding, menstruation, aunt flo, etc. Periods are regarded to most as inconvenient, messy, gross… though without them, we wouldn’t get that sheer relief of “I’m not pregnant, YAY!” or be able to map out our most fertile times for when we do look at having children… many of us have lost touch with what it means to bleed. I used to think it was inconvenient, messy and gross… but as you grow and learn… perspectives change, which was initially where my eco-friendly start on feminine products began. I started out buying disposables I thought were better because they were organic cotton and had a pretty box (don’t judge it’s all part of the learning process :’D), then dove further into research and came across sea sponge tampons… which to a degree were great don’t get me wrong… for straight walking and sleeping and general daily activities, they held up well. Although, as time went on, I began to resent the rinsing and reinsertion that happened almost as often as you’d change a tampon.. yes they were more eco friendly as they can be composted and break down etc, but more convenient? Not really.

Then I decided to get over my fear and give the menstrual cup a go. I bought a cheap, medical-grade silicon cup off of eBay which turned up mid-cycle.. PERFECT. I could try it straight after a quick sterilisation in boiling water (I do about 5-7 minutes). Though immensely daunting at first, I mean look at it… how could you not, the cup looks huge!

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Clear is my first purchased, pink is a recent purchase.

I did a quick search on alternative folds because the C-Fold they recommend with most instruction pamphlets that accompany a menstrual cup looked just as daunting as if I were to just shove it in as is! Find fold alternatives here – Cup Folds. I personally find the “punchdown” fold the easiest, but we’re all different. Insertion is also different depending on the finish of the cup. My clear one has a “shiny” finish so tends to be easier to insert for the most part. The pink one is matte, though easier to grip, I do find for me that this one takes a little bit longer to use. I’ve been using a cup now for about 3-4 cycles and I doubt I will go back.

Now for those of you who are pregnant, religious beliefs don’t allow tampons/ etc to be used, or who are already having postpartum bleeding, there are alternatives to the cup. Reusable/ washable pads and panty liners.

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Reusable Pad

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I bought a reusable pad on eBay ( I wanted to test the waters before I get pregnant with a second bubba). The one I purchased (shown above), whilst really pretty in design, was not practical as a means for post partum bleeding. I don’t know a great deal about reusable pads yet, but have heard good things. I urge you to check dimensions before purchase, as I am technically plus size, I found this to not be wide enough and therefore bunched up when fastened. Do your research, check dimensions and if you find one that works, let us know in the comments 😀

Quick notes –

When using a cup:

  • If the cup leaks, its not inserted correctly or the seal has not worked. Try twisting it to ensure it seals properly.. you’ll thank me later.
  • Make sure you relax as much as possible, avoid inserting whilst lying down… squat or put a leg on the bath or vanity… a deep breath out when you insert it can do wonders.
  • Make sure you check you are getting the most appropriate, most come in 2 types: pre-children and post children.
  • Cups are not completely zero waste as eventually they do need to be thrown away, but they last around 15 years per cup.

 

Good luck with your zero waste moon cycle and thanks for sticking with me through this super long post!

Hopes and Dreams

Okay, so it’s not exactly a super original post but hear me out.

My dreams of what I wanted in my life have changed dramatically since I was old enough to remember what they were. I mean if you ask 5 year old me, I wanted to marry a boy that was the son of a family friend (he was going to be a vet apparently), I was going to be a mum.. and that was it. So simple, well I got halfway there, I am definitely a mum. The boy on the other hand, is not someone I maintained that kind of interest in beyond childhood. Dreams change as you develop new values and ideals as well as what you materialistically want to manifest into your life.

For example, throughout my teenage years (and the first couple of years of my 20’s) I wanted a big house, with a big kitchen (hey, I like the idea of cooking together without the ever present bumping into and tripping over one another), a his and hers closet space, oh and a huge backyard so my kids could run around with plenty of space for kiddy shenanigans and games. That changed again earlier this year. I watched a documentary called “Minimalism” which for me, was a giant eye opener into what I actually wanted out of life. Now I was wanting a small home, think tiny homes (google/Pinterest it, I promise they’re not as unusual as you think), but I still want it on a big plot of land (recently I decided that land should be an island 😛 ) somewhere near a source of water and foresty sort of area. I want my kids… *plural because I intend to have more* … to have the space to climb trees or build and craft things from stuff they found on the ground or near the edge of the water.

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Though I still wanted a space that was adult-friendly. Where my partner (lets call him “D” for now) could have time together doing the things that we love to do as well. Materialistic things like a giant closet just didn’t feel realistic anymore, I even scanned all the photos in my house onto the computer so that I didn’t have to find storage for them anymore. It seems daunting – throwing away all these things we think are important or significant, or that we keep out of obligation to somebody… but it was one of the most liberating things I have done in my adult life. My hopes now are that my future is sustainably built and full of memories and experiences rather than things that ultimately do me no good. I’m yet to hear of anyone on their death bed wishing that they had bought more, worked more or care more about what they looked like than having adventures and experiences they could be proud of.

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Have you had an epiphany or a-ha moment where you just knew that everything you ‘wanted’ wasn’t really  what you wanted?