Exploring Capability

The last few days my little guy has been pushing some of my parental anxiety buttons with his in-home risk taking adventures. K has become an avid climber of anything he can lift his knee onto before pulling himself up *cue worst case scenario thoughts of a falling child*. He will climb chairs, onto the table, the tv unit, even the bins in the kitchen. His most recent conquest however is the cat tower. 

The cat tower we have is somewhere between 2 and 2.5 meters tall, we got it for the cat as a present from K before he was born to help the  cat accept him and so that when K got old enough to be mobile, he could still escape somewhere.
This morning K decided to scale the cat tower higher than the first platform, after trying the standard “hop down right now”, “get down before you fall” and “NO” I decided to just let him climb. Now before you all freak out about this being irresponsible parenting… I was less than a meter away and ready to catch him if necessary. The reason I did this was

a) kids need to learn their own boundaries and capabilities (under supervision in case they push further than they’re ready to)

b) kids will learn safety faster as a result of consequence (no I’m not saying that means you should let them stick a knife into the power socket or let them drink poison so they learn, I’m merely referring to giving them some freedom to develop skills and independence in a safe way)

c) if I didn’t let him do it while I’m there, he is more inclined to try when my back is turned or I’m out of the room – therefore increasing the risk of injury

So yes, my parental alarm was blaring… but I was there to be a safety net while he explores his boundaries. I think its important to let them learn through play, and kids will climb things eventually, I’m of the opinion that the sooner they learn where their capabilities are, the sooner they will understand not to overreach too soon.

Do you have a little climber on your hands too? How does your little adventurer push your parental buttons, and how do you handle it?

* Please note I am not a scientist, this is merely an opinion piece based on my experiences and reading of other parents personal accounts of similar scenarios*

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Our Big Day!

*Accommodation and locations mentioned in this post are in no way affiliated with me*

I know I’ve mentioned it now in a few of my posts… and for the few people who actually read (if any at this point), the big day has finally come and gone! Whilst the event itself was honestly an amazing experience, the lead up and organisation was, how do I put this… chaotic!

Let me just say, our wedding was overseas in Fiji… which made it more difficult than expected to organise. However also much cheaper once all the details were actually hashed out properly. We had our wedding at Fiji Hideaway Resort and Spa, which was a beautiful location. After an insanely grueling 5 or so hour flight with K (his first plane trip ever by the way), we got to our accommodation, eventually checked in and then pretty much slept the rest of the day, waking only for meals *laughs to self about parental exhaustion* . The first week of our trip was basically spent finalising wedding details. To save money we tried to do as much as possible ourselves, we got fresh flowers sourced locally for my bridesmaids, I did mine and the bridesmaids hair, eBay was also a great source prior to the trip for dresses, gifts and jewellery. One of my biggest concerns was my ‘diet’ in regards to the wedding. I wasn’t sure how being vegan would go over there, but it turned out to be absolutely fine, half the meals were vegetarian/ vegan friendly and the cake was completely vegan, so I was able to eat my own wedding cake! *happy dance*

Once the party was over, we went back to the room to put K to bed then went to have a shower before going to bed. We had a super early start, having to drive 2 hours back to Nadi to catch a boat (which we missed by the way) to get to the honeymoon. Due to missing the boat we managed to get a seaplane out instead which was great.

THE HONEYMOON….

We got to Mantaray Island by around lunchtime, were checked in and had to literally hike to get to the lunch. Mantaray is somewhat of a luxury hostel. Meals are paid for on arrival and you just turn up at meal times and order from the menu board. Our first couple of days were spent just settling in on the beach and sussing out the dive shop. I decided that I was going to get Open Water certified while I was there. It did mean I missed out on breakfast for a few days… but the experience was so worth it! I even got to see a shark and some turtles in my last 2 dives. While there, D and I got to snorkel with some mantarays… well they don’t call it Mantaray Island for nothing!

The whole experience was phenomenal and incredibly awe-worthy. I will upload some of the snaps into an album here, and try to add some footage from the manta swim on the Mum of  0ne Instagram page.

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Thanks for sticking with me to the end of this post.. here’s the album!

 

 

 

 

 

Hiatus

Hi everyone… I know I don’t really have many readers (or followers) yet, but for those of you who do… this mama thanks you for your patience. I apologise for my lengthy hiatus from posting, I was going through some things as well as finalising (and actually getting) married so blogging sort of went to the back burner for a while.

Now that I am home, married and lacking the immense stress I had been carrying … I intend to dive right back into it as much as I can. I will hopefully get posts up once every 1-2 weeks (i will post more if I have anything interesting to talk about or have found a product to rave about too). If there is anything you want to know about me or want my opinions on.. let me know, i’d love to not only get to know what is important to my followers, but it opens up the proverbial ‘can of worms’ to other followers on things they may not have thought about or gives them a new perspective on things they have thought about.

Also, don’t forget to check me out on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram… you will find most new posts get notified on those pages. To make sure you never miss a post, you can also sign up to the email list.

Thanks again for sticking around and reading.. you guys are awesome 😀

Waste-Free Moon Cycle

Hello beautiful people! So, I recently made the decision to live a more zero waste lifestyle. Since leaving my childhood home, I always did what I thought would help when it came to recycling and being eco-friendly. I reused plastic grocery bags, I recycled old milk cartons etc… but after a little research, I realised this is not nearly helpful to the degree it needs to be. In saying that, this post is about the ‘feminine products’ so I will focus on that in this post and do a further ‘zero waste’ post at a later date.

So, its pretty much a fact of life for females from puberty to menopause… periods. Though it goes by many names; time of the month, sacred bleeding, menstruation, aunt flo, etc. Periods are regarded to most as inconvenient, messy, gross… though without them, we wouldn’t get that sheer relief of “I’m not pregnant, YAY!” or be able to map out our most fertile times for when we do look at having children… many of us have lost touch with what it means to bleed. I used to think it was inconvenient, messy and gross… but as you grow and learn… perspectives change, which was initially where my eco-friendly start on feminine products began. I started out buying disposables I thought were better because they were organic cotton and had a pretty box (don’t judge it’s all part of the learning process :’D), then dove further into research and came across sea sponge tampons… which to a degree were great don’t get me wrong… for straight walking and sleeping and general daily activities, they held up well. Although, as time went on, I began to resent the rinsing and reinsertion that happened almost as often as you’d change a tampon.. yes they were more eco friendly as they can be composted and break down etc, but more convenient? Not really.

Then I decided to get over my fear and give the menstrual cup a go. I bought a cheap, medical-grade silicon cup off of eBay which turned up mid-cycle.. PERFECT. I could try it straight after a quick sterilisation in boiling water (I do about 5-7 minutes). Though immensely daunting at first, I mean look at it… how could you not, the cup looks huge!

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Clear is my first purchased, pink is a recent purchase.

I did a quick search on alternative folds because the C-Fold they recommend with most instruction pamphlets that accompany a menstrual cup looked just as daunting as if I were to just shove it in as is! Find fold alternatives here – Cup Folds. I personally find the “punchdown” fold the easiest, but we’re all different. Insertion is also different depending on the finish of the cup. My clear one has a “shiny” finish so tends to be easier to insert for the most part. The pink one is matte, though easier to grip, I do find for me that this one takes a little bit longer to use. I’ve been using a cup now for about 3-4 cycles and I doubt I will go back.

Now for those of you who are pregnant, religious beliefs don’t allow tampons/ etc to be used, or who are already having postpartum bleeding, there are alternatives to the cup. Reusable/ washable pads and panty liners.

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Folded up neatly.
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Reusable Pad

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I bought a reusable pad on eBay ( I wanted to test the waters before I get pregnant with a second bubba). The one I purchased (shown above), whilst really pretty in design, was not practical as a means for post partum bleeding. I don’t know a great deal about reusable pads yet, but have heard good things. I urge you to check dimensions before purchase, as I am technically plus size, I found this to not be wide enough and therefore bunched up when fastened. Do your research, check dimensions and if you find one that works, let us know in the comments 😀

Quick notes –

When using a cup:

  • If the cup leaks, its not inserted correctly or the seal has not worked. Try twisting it to ensure it seals properly.. you’ll thank me later.
  • Make sure you relax as much as possible, avoid inserting whilst lying down… squat or put a leg on the bath or vanity… a deep breath out when you insert it can do wonders.
  • Make sure you check you are getting the most appropriate, most come in 2 types: pre-children and post children.
  • Cups are not completely zero waste as eventually they do need to be thrown away, but they last around 15 years per cup.

 

Good luck with your zero waste moon cycle and thanks for sticking with me through this super long post!

Review of Washboard bag

Okay, so I ran a brief and somewhat rough test with K’s cloth nappies which were the original reason for the project (in the hopes we could take then overseas and avoid ‘sposies’.

Anyway, parts of the zigzag pattern peeled away from the bag (probably from me bending the bag to get a grip whilst scrubbing) and the bag i chose actually leaked as i was scrubbing leaving me wiyh wet hands and a puddle on my scrubbing surface, which fortunately for me was my bathtub, so all in all it worked somewhat.

I may have added a few too many items though as the actually nappy shell wasn’t quite clean, but the liners i put in (which are what really needs the scrubbing anyway) soaped up well and seemed to be cleaner.

So I think I’ll call it a half success. A heavier based bag as opposed the the one i bought would have been much more successful at holding and retaining water as I scrubbed, and all dots as opposed to a dot and zigzag pattern too. I hope this helps on your efforts to make your own version. Good luck and get crafty 😀

Travel Washboard Bag

Okay beautiful people, first things first… I apologise for my hiatus in posting, I have been seriously lacking motivation for doing a lot lately. Secondly, I know this was meant to be posted over the weekend, but I had much less time than I anticipated. Now that’s out of the way… what you’re here really here for – how to make your very own washboard travel laundry bag.
Step 1: Invest in your supplies –

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Glue Gun (with refills)       &        Dry bag (mine is a Bluefield 40L in orange off eBay.com.au)

 

Step 2: Plug in your glue gun and add the first stick to it. Flip your dry bag inside out so the side with the waterproof lining is then external.

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Step 3: Once the glue gun has heated up and likely begun to ooze… start your “pattern” of glue about 2 – 3 inches below the opening of the bag and about 1.5-2 inches from the side fold when its flat on your work surface leave about a centimetre before the seam at the base. I used 2 variations for my glue pattern – dots (as seen on a Scrubba bag) and a continuous zigzag/wave (see yellow pattern below). Leave to dry.

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Step 4: Once your first side is dry (mine was pretty quick… but I did mine while K was on his nap) flip it over and start doing the same pattern on the opposite side. Once done, leave to dry (I ended up doing my second side with K on his afternoon nap). That’s it… all done.

Notes

Put some paper or piece of rubbish under your glue gun to catch globs of glue when your gun is off or not being used.

When running low on the used stick, add a glob of glue to your next one so you don’t have to feed it continuously as you’re focusing on your pattern.

If you want, add some crosshatching or an adhesive rubber patch on the outside to use as a handgrip when scrubbing clothes inside the bag. (I haven’t done this as yet, I will test and review my bag on a later post to see how it fares without them).

 

Thanks for reading and good luck with your projects, let me know how it goes. Post any adjustments that worked for you in the comments too – you just might help out another reader!

Transitioning

About a month ago now I enlisted the help of my mum, her partner and my fiancé D to upcycle K’s first cot (before we managed to get him a brand new one). I wanted to give it new life as a toddler bed for K before he needed a big boy bed. I’d been mentally designing it for a few months in my head, I wanted it to be a floor bed, it had to utilise as much of the original cot as possible so  we didn’t have to pay any extra for things like screws and planks etc. and it had to have a bed head and a bed tail/end/etc.

So I finally managed to get myself organised and get all the pieces together, went over the rough design with my enlisted group and we got to work. First we trimmed down the pieces to how I’d drawn them out (basically chopping off the legs and the country-retro style piece of the headboard, as well as shortening the tail end of the bed so it was roughly mattress height). We Then painted over the cot, keeping it white but just giving it a bit of a fresh look. We used one of the side railing pieces to create a side barrier so K wouldn’t accidently roll out too. (Pictures at the end of the post.) Once it had all been put together to make sure it looked right, we put the screws in to hold it together. Unfortunately due to the holes having been predrilled, the screws didn’t stay in very well (they slip out if you try to push and pull the bed), however if you don’t move the bed all is fine.

We tried getting K to take his naps in the toddler bed so we could transition him out of the cot and take it out of the room. But for a few weeks he only wanted to sleep on the floor, so I decided to only put him in the toddler bed on occasion, up until recently at least. On Monday I put him in the toddler bed and he stayed in there for his whole nap *cue mama victory dancing*. So I made sure that if I’d checked on him and he was asleep, to leave the door shut but not to the point it clicked into the frame, very slightly ajar. It seems that it has been working because he still goes down in his toddler bed at the end of the week, he gets himself up and comes out once he is done napping. We plan to try an overnighter in the toddler bed this weekend *fingers crossed*.

Have you guys tried bed transitioning yet? What did you find worked? What were your setbacks/ triumphs/ surprises?

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